Some people get upset with life or disappointed in themselves if relationships don’t turn out the way they hoped or planned. People get locked into bad feelings and find they have trouble “getting over” the relationship. In fact, as soon as a relationship ends, “it” is over. From then on, we are locked in a relationship with our own memories. It helps to see how easily we can be tricked by our own thinking. If we dwell on what we’ve lost, or what went wrong, or why our plan went awry, we are innocently wallowing in the muck of old thoughts and losing touch with life as it is now and a fresh start. A deeper understanding of our power as the thinker to quiet our thinking and listen for new insights is the answer.